You've decided to pass on the tried and true wedding vows for a personal ceremony where you'll exchange thoughtful, hand-written expressions of love to one another ... except that neither of you are exactly a writer of love sonnets. It's okay; you need not be Pablo Neruda to craft meaningful vows that reflect who you are as a couple.

Start with what you know is true: ponder how you came to love this person unconditionally and what makes you want to spend your life with them. Next, think about what inspired you- their smile, the way they look at you as though no one else in the world exists, the way they make Sunday morning pancakes. Consider how you want to express your love. Does a serious exchange sound apropos or is a humorous but heartfelt promise more your speed? 

While the marriage of Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston didn't last, their sincere but light-hearted vows, which included Brad's vow to compromise on the temperature set on the thermostat and Jennifer's promise to make Brad his favorite banana spilt ice cream, were sweet and from the heart.

If the words just don't come to you, consult a professional. Elizabeth Barrett Browning, Shakespeare, Lord Byron - all have written about love in extraordinary poems. Don't reinvent the wheel if they're already said what you're trying to. Quote them in your vows if they say it best.

A sentimental song or line from a movie can also serve as a springboard for getting your creative juices flowing. Weaving lyrics or lines that reflect how you feel in between your own authentic expressions can make for inspiring, earnest vows.

Most importantly, write from the heart and put pen to paper. Don't try to "wing it" as the big day is chock full of unexpected distractions and the last thing you need is the stress of hundreds of eyes staring at you at your most vulnerable. Tune everyone and everything out so it's only you declaring your love for your betrothed. Keep it short and reserve any intimate declarations for a private moment. Less is more and if all else fails, "I do" says it all!